When it comes to the subject of sex I really don't think men and women will ever agree.
As human beings I think both genders, in most cases, are really similar in their way of thinking, Venus and Mars Syndrome notwithstanding.
But when it comes to sex, we are miles apart.
I posed this classic question to four women that I am acquainted with.
If a man that you would not normally be attracted to offered you $10,000 to spend 12 hours with him sexually, would you do it?
This assumes that all parties concerned have a modest income and that the $10,000 represents a very large sum of money. Let's also assume that the man in question is a well groomed but middle aged gentlemen, although this was not specified in the question to these ladies.
Three of the ladies were average looking middle aged women, basically nearing the end of their "desirable" stage in life. The fourth was a very attractive 21 year old.
The expected result was that no, they would not take the offer. One of the older women did qualify that it would depend on the man in question, so not an absolute NO.
One said "I won't sell myself for $10,000". This begs the question, what if the figure was $100,000? Or a million, like they did in the movie? Is there a graph we can make that shows the decline of integrity with the increase of reward?
It's obvious to me that most women would not admit that they would indeed accept the money, fearing that they would appear to have no integrity if they did.
I kind of think that if the cash was waved in front of their faces maybe they'd change their mind. But let's assume they wouldn't.
I found it amusing that the three older women seemed to think they would be worth $10,000 in the first place. The reality is that they could not command a price of much more than maybe $200-$500, if anything at all.
Being older they have less value (Read my Value Post) if they have any sexual value at all. Most single middle aged men have little problem getting sex from women of their own age. More opportunity = less value.
But what are the chances of a 50ish single man hooking up with an attractive 21 year old woman? It happens but usually only to those men in position of status. And the chances diminish with every passing year.
So for him the value of a sexual liaison with this young woman is substantial.
Substantial enough for an offer of $10,000. And in giving up that kind of money, the value increases even more. For every hour he spends with her he is giving up $833!
He is obviously going to cherish every second of that rendezvous. No one minds spending big money if they feel they are getting the value they deserve.
Now if I was that 21 year old woman I would be very flattered that someone thought I was sexually worth $10,000, and yet most women see such an offer as an insult.
Let's talk about integrity. The "I won't sell myself" argument is ridiculous. We all sell ourselves out often during the course of our lives. Every day when we go to our jobs we are selling ourselves to our employers. They own our asses for a fee they call a wage.
Are you not selling out your kids if you refuse the opportunity to acquire the money for their educations?
Just because this situation involves the genitals it should make a difference? I think this illustrates the biggest difference between men and women.
From my point of view any women that provides sex for a fee is no different from a woman that is providing a massage for a fee. They are both providing a service and fulfilling the needs of each other.
I don't understand the moral issue here.
One need is money, one need is physical pleasure. Tit for tat. Women often inflate the sexual act into some kind of metaphysical bonding between two spirits.
And I would venture to guess that the same women I have talked to have bedded men for the cost of a meal or simply because "it seemed the thing to do" maybe without even knowing their last names. Integrity? Please don't play that card.
Your self worth should be constructed of something more substantial than your sex life.
For men sex is a goal to be strived for and achieved, a biological function not entirely unlike a good bowel movement.
In the last 50 years or so men have been compromising their masculinity to appease this female fantasy of Harlequin Romance Bliss.
But we play the game as needed.
